Is It Time for Couples Therapy?
Relationships are complex, filled with moments of joy, passion, and times of challenge. When you’re feeling disconnected or constantly in conflict with your partner, it’s easy to feel overwhelmed. While tough to navigate, these challenges can also signal that your relationship is ready for some focused attention and support.
Explore the dynamics of your relationship with our Relationship Check-In Quiz. Designed to provide insights into key aspects like communication, trust, intimacy, and more, this quiz helps you identify areas where couples therapy could help strengthen your bond. Whether you're navigating minor challenges or facing significant issues, our relationship check-in quiz is a valuable tool for couples looking to deepen their understanding and explore the benefits of couples therapy. Read on to complete the quiz and see if and where your relationship might benefit from a tune-up.
Relationship CHECK-IN Quiz
For each category below, select the option that best describes your current situation.
Communication:
a) We communicate openly and honestly.
b) We have occasional misunderstandings but resolve them quickly.
c) We often have misunderstandings and arguments.
d) We hardly communicate and avoid difficult conversations.
Conflict Resolution:
a) We resolve conflicts calmly and respectfully.
b) We sometimes struggle with resolving conflicts but eventually work through them.
c) We frequently have unresolved conflicts.
d) Our conflicts are intense, frequent, and unresolved.
Emotional Connection:
a) We feel deeply connected and supported by each other.
b) We feel somewhat connected but have moments of distance.
c) We often feel emotionally distant.
d) We feel disconnected and unsupportive of eachother.
Time Together:
a) We enjoy spending time together and make it a priority.
b) We spend a good amount of time together but wish for more quality time.
c) We often feel like we don’t spend enough time together.
d) We rarely spend time together and often feel disconnected.
Trust:
a) We completely trust each other.
b) We generally trust each other but have occasional doubts.
c) Trust has been broken, and we are struggling to rebuild it.
d) Trust is severely damaged or absent in our relationship.
Intimacy:
a) We have a fulfilling and satisfying intimate relationship.
b) Our intimacy is generally good but could use improvement.
c) Our intimacy is lacking and often causes frustration.
d) We have little to no intimate connection.
Shared Goals and Values:
a) We share similar goals and values and work towards them together.
b) We have some differences but find ways to compromise.
c) We often disagree on important goals and values.
d) We have conflicting goals and values that cause tension.
Support:
a) We support each other through challenges and celebrate successes.
b) We offer some support but often struggle to be there for each other.
c) We feel unsupported and often deal with challenges alone.
d) We feel like we're on separate paths without mutual support.
Future Outlook:
a) We are excited about our future together.
b) We have some concerns but are generally hopeful about our future.
c) We have significant doubts about our future together.
d) We feel uncertain or negative about staying together long-term.
Financial Management:
a) We manage our finances together and agree on financial decisions.
b) We occasionally have disagreements but work through financial issues.
c) We often have conflicts about financial management.
d) Financial issues cause significant stress and disagreement.
Division of Labor:
a) We share household responsibilities equally and support each other.
b) We occasionally struggle with dividing household tasks but manage it.
c) Household responsibilities frequently cause tension in our relationship.
d) Division of labor issues cause significant stress and conflict.
Parenting (if applicable):
a) We agree on parenting styles and support each other’s decisions.
b) We have some differences in parenting styles but find compromises.
c) We frequently disagree on parenting approaches and have conflicts.
d) Parenting disagreements are a major source of tension.
Scoring & Next Steps
Mostly a: It sounds like your relationship is in a good place. This doesn’t happen by accident! Keep nurturing your relationship with open communication and mutual support. Address any minor issues as they come up to keep your bond strong.
Mostly b: You’ve got a generally healthy relationship which is great! It’s normal to have areas that could use a little attention, so reflect on the categories above and see which ones need a little extra TLC to deepen your connection even more. Consider scheduling occasional check-ins with your partner or seek guidance on specific issues as needed.
Mostly c: It seems like there are areas of concern in your relationship that could benefit from outside support. Working with a couples therapist could be a valuable step to address challenges, strengthen your sense of connection and help get things back on track.
Mostly d: Your relationship is facing some significant challenges that are undoubtedly impacting you in several ways. While this is difficult, frustrating (and can feel hopeless, if we’re being honest!) you don’t have to go at it alone. Working with a couples therapist can provide you and your partner with tools and strategies to improve communication, rebuild trust, and strengthen your relationship.
Final Thoughts
I get it—relationships aren’t always easy and there’s no such thing as the perfect one. Whether you're struggling with everyday stressors or more significant strain, conflict is normal and natural. Couples therapy can help partners navigate challenges as a team by focusing on practical solutions—strengthening communication, rebuilding trust, and deepening connection. If you’re not ready for couples therapy, consider reaching out to an individual therapist if you don’t already have one. Individual therapy can also help you gain tools to navigate relationship challenges. EP Therapy Collective offers both individual and couples therapy to adults in Illinois and Utah, and we’re taking new clients. Reach out if you’re interested in getting started.
And finally, as a couples therapist who can’t go through a session without sharing an activity, book or podcast rec, here are some of my favorites:
Small Things Often - a podcast from the Gottman Institute - one of, if not the, world’s leading experts in relationships. Each 5 minute episode (we all have 5 free minutes in a day!) focuses on one small thing you can do to improve your relationship, from asking for what you want, to strategies for making your relationship a priority. This podcast is one of my favorite go-to recommendations to help couples get back on track.
Where Should We Begin? - a game from renowned relationship therapist and thought leader, Esther Perel, focused on storytelling, the building block of all relationships. The cards are designed to help spark conversions, connection and play. Grab a deck and try it!
The content on this website is for informational and educational purposes only and does not constitute professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your therapist or other qualified health provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition or mental health issue.
